A plethora of changes happened in my life professionally and personally since my last blog published. By the grace of god, I am at a good place now. Amen.
Individuality
Well, today I want to shed some light on the topic of "Vaccine of Individuality".
So, let us first know the meaning of Individuality.
I feel like, Individuality means every person is "different". As in, we have a clear distinction in our upbringing, quirks, culture, habits, traits and so on and so forth. Hence, basically everything is distinctive in our separate journeys including our physical appearances like our nose, ears, skin complexion and body structure and much more. Therefore, in a nutshell, individuality means everything that we have in whichever way is completely different than the others.
As per the life experiences I have had, the realizations I perceived over the course of this roller-coaster life, Owning up to those experiences, I can say that there is something that we have which makes us different and distinct from the others. It could be anything from my style of dressing sense to the way I think any profound thought. For Instance, there are two students one is an early riser and the other one is a night-rider. Now, either of them cannot exchange one another's approach to get to the higher marks because both have a different set- pattern to study better and that set-pattern will only help them excelling.
But, in today's generation who are way ahead of time, lacks these qualities which are very important for the parents to actually inculcate into them. It will be wrongful to include only today's generation rather actually its also the people across every age-group. Everyone is getting affected with this "Virus of Comparison".
Virus of Comparison
The ‘Virus of comparison’ is highly contagious and shows the symptoms which makes people compare themselves with others over the littlest of things. As in, it’s a trait which happens unconsciously and many people are not aware of it while it is happening into their head. They just start comparing themselves with their contemporaries. It just happens organically. Its necessary to observe these thoughts.
I think also, it boils down to not being secure into our own skin. I mean, take an example that if this classmate who studied with me 10 years ago is now earning Rs.50000 more than me. It will immediately take me back to the memory where I was smarter than this person in academics and now look this person is flying off the handle. Of course, these facts produce a lump into the throat. Its extremely normal. Everyone feels it. But, it’s a rite of passage from comparing to being happy for two-different individualistic journeys. This rite of passage starts through explaining ourselves that its okay, "I have my own journey and I WILL REACH STARS as I am working hard and I will get what I want not immediately but definitely", so there is no point of comparing myself to the other.
Vaccine of Individuality
Anyways, We are always bound to meet people who are better-off in a gazillion way. So, what will we do, every time comparison? No, Instead, as soon as a thought of comparison strikes, I will make sure to give myself a vaccine doze of "Individuality". It will make me feel content.
The other thing which intrigues me is the journey. Everyone comes from a different background and mindset. Hence, folks are different from one another and their path of life is only their own, none of them can compare each other even if they are twins or triplets, because even twins or triplets would have a completely different defense-mechanism and modus-operandi in different circumstances of life.
Now, we got to know that even twins can’t have an identical life journey. In fact, their life journeys are completely contrasting then how can we expect to have a similar sort of income level or a similar sort of status quo or a car like an another person when we know that this other person and me have a stark difference between each other.
This is actually our time to introspect and look deep into ourselves and analyze what we are doing and why we are doing it . The metamorphosis from being an insecure person to a person who is comfortable into his/her own skin won’t happen in a day or two. The transformation is entirely depended on how much we focus on it. It means for us, its necessary from now on to take the steps towards a much-needed change.
So, here are the following steps to change ourselves into a person who is secure and doesn't compare.
1. Observe your thinking whenever you encounter someone who is superior (in your head) than you.
2. Notice that thought which pops-up.
3. Think about why you need not to compare yourself to that person.
4. After this logical reasoning, now change your thinking and get clarity that “Everyone is different and its okay.”
5. At last, now its time to be happy for both your individualistic jouneys.
Because, no one’s success or failure will affect my life. I will put my 200% at work and work damn harder. I will get success, great! I get failure, fine! I will still do what I have set out to do.
On that note, Lets celebrate our Individualism this year!
Amazing sir ,It is a great blog and we shouldn't compare our self to anyone else and also we should change our thinking and also we should bring change in our life with new generation, also you have taken good example and cleared our mindset, I have learnt something new from this blog.
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